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2019年06月17日 12:41:02来源:康养生

A long distance relationship is a trial of patience for two people in love. I've had my share of them due to my job commitments and at this stage in time, university degree requirement. In this article I will share several ideas on ways to not only sustain a pre-existing relationship but also develop it further.I am assuming that you two have aly been in a relationship for a reasonable amount of time. Your time together is precious and sacred and both of you appreciate the fact that among thousands of people out there, the two of you chose to be together. I assume here that there are no lies, that both are committed to the relationship.Truth is, your biggest enemy is time. But at the same time, time squandered is a waste. For example, you spend all your life pining away for your partner hundreds or thousands of miles away when the thing that needs doing - your job, your degree, your life - is put on hold. Stop. You might say, "Well, its all part of the fun isn't it? Staying up late, listening to silly soppy songs on radio, re-ing old letters. Where's the harm in that?" Frankly, ma'am, a little is alright but a lot is way out of context.Balance is the key to maintaining sanity in a long distance relationship. True, you may love him/her. But if you spend all your time focusing on how much you miss him/her, it will affect your moods and just make you a duller person.On with the list of of Ten Ideas to Sustain A Long Distance RelationshipHave DVD Fridays/WeekendsThe idea is that even though you're apart, it wouldn't hurt to synchronize watching a movie rental together. At least, after the movie, you can have a chat about the movie. Whether you liked it or not, or whether you identified with this or that character. At the very least, it's a conversation topic.Work on a Common Project.A friend of mine works in Beijing while his wife is in the US. They're engaged and working hard towards securing their future. They've just bought a home and are thinking of decorating it. Other than actually buying stuff and shipping it home (which can be extremely expensive!), whip out that Cameraphone, snap pics, put a price to it and post it on Flickr or set up a blog. Now both of you are engaged in the search of fantasy furniture pieces!Share the Same DreamMy gay friend and his partner are fitness buffs. They had this crazy idea of doing the 100km marathon. The thing is, one of them's going away to the States for his studies and will periodically at the end of the year for his winter break. So I told them, why not train separately, but aim for a common end point. End of the year come back and race together. How about keeping a couple's training journal?Skype amp; MSNThe key ingredient for any great relationship is COMMUNICATION. Instantaneous if possible, delayed at best. Skype offers anybody with a fast broadband connection and decent CPU processor speed the opportunity to call anybody on the internet for FREE. If you can't talk, use MSN messenger or any dozens of competing Instant Messaging services to keep in touch and focused. There's now no excuse to communicate if calls are FREE and messages are Instantaneous!Stay Grounded and FocusedI can't emphasize this enough. Most people who arrive in a new city suddenly find themselves surrounded by new things to do, new people to meet etc. With that comes the temptation to try something new. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, or so they tell me. RESIST. Tell yourself, that you are in a perfectly good relationship and that you shouldn't put yourself in a compromising position. Life shouldn't be an episode of "Sex in the City". That kind of life leaves you depleted and hollow. Before one of you leave, get a set of commitment rings/studs/bracelet - anything. It doesn't have to be flashy but it is a token, a reminder that you carry in your heart, his/her heart. Mean it when you give it to him/her.Remember Your Anniversaries and FirstsNeglect it at your cost, but if you forget an anniversary, woe betide you... Write it down, print it out, tattoo it onto your brain, but make sure you remember your anniversaries and birthdays. Why? Well, with a little planning, that event can become focal points for the year. Something to look forward to. You could even surprise him/her with gifts sent by post. Ebay.com has lots of stuff on offer, so make full use of it. Everyone loves getting something special in the mail.Keep A JournalWhat doesn't get written down, will not be remembered. You're both young, enterprising adults with lives of your own. Keep track of your thoughts and emotional development. Keep track of your dreams and hopes. Doodle, scribble, inscribe your memory in a special way so that you may share it. The point is that sometimes Life moves so fast, you forget who you were or why you are with the person. A journal acts as a reminder.Pay Attention To Each Other's Needs For SleepDifference in time zone, jet lag, lack of morning coffee - are frequently cited reasons as to why you're especially grouchy. Both partners need to be mindful that people get tired and need rest. When you agree to communicate choose a reasonable timing. Something that you're both comfortable with. 8pm in Hong Kong is 12pm in Britain. That's reasonable. When I was 8 hours ahead of my girl when she was visiting her family in UK, I came up with a table to remind myself of the time in UK, each time she logged on. I shared this with her and as much as possible we talked only when it was reasonable for us to do so.Use GoogleMaps To Visualize The Space Between YouIt's a fun exercise to help crystallize the distance that separates the two of you. Go to GoogleMaps type in your address and then type in your partner's address. Create a composite map of how you'll be getting home if you were to walk the entire distance using satellite photos.Finally, TrustThe most important thing in a relationship is Trust. Trust that your partner will do the right thing. Trust that you will do the right thing. Be aware that pitfalls await for any couple, and that he/she can cheat at any point in time and space because, really at the end of the day, its their choice. What we can do as partners of lovers who are abroad is be the best personthat we can be.I hope this write up will be of use to all lovers out there living under the tyranny of distance. Trust me on this, LDRs are worth having. There's an old adage that goes, "Absence only makes the heart grow fonder" and the old-fuddy-duddy in me wants to believe in that. Till next time! /200804/35246。

  • Anyone who has heard the snap of a rubber band breaking knows it's time to reach for a replacement.But a group of French scientists have made a self-healing rubber band material that can reclaim its stretchy usefulness by simply pressing the broken edges back together for a few minutes.The material, described on Wednesday in the journal Nature, can be broken and repaired over and over again.It is made from simple ingredients -- fatty acids like those found in vegetable oils, and urea, a waste compound in urine that can be made synthetically.The material would be an asset to industry and might even help shed light on the physics of elasticity, wrote Philippe Cordier and colleagues at the Industrial Physics and Chemistry Higher Educational Institution in Paris.Standard rubber bands, which can stretch up to several hundred percent then snap back into shape, are made from long chains of cross-linked polymers.The new material is linked by short chains of a type of molecule called ditopic.If severed, the material mends itself when the ends are pressed together for a few minutes at room temperature."The mended samples are able to sustain large deformations and recover their shape and size when stress is released," Cordier and his colleagues wrote.The material can "withstand multiple fractures, needs no catalysts and is otherwise straightforward to produce," Justin Mynar and Takuzo Aida of the University of Tokyo wrote in an accompanying article."A final blessing is that it can be broken down with heat and easily recycled -- so it is environmentally friendly, too." “啪”!橡皮筋断了。遇到这种情况,我们都知道该去换根新的。不过,法国一组科研人员日前研制出一种可以“自我愈合”的橡皮筋材料,用这种材料制成的橡皮筋断了之后,只需将断裂两端按住几分钟,就能恢复得完好如初。这个新成果在本周三的《自然》期刊上公布。据介绍,这种材料能够反复地断裂修复。这种新材料的成分很简单——即蔬菜油及尿素(随尿液排出的一种可合成的化合物)中所含的脂肪酸。巴黎“工业物理与化学高等教育研究所”的菲利浦#8226;科迪亚及其同事写道,这种材料在工业领域大有用处,而且它甚至能为弹性物理学提供新的信息。标准橡皮筋由交错连接的长链聚合物制成,能拉伸至原先长度的几倍,释放后可缩回原型。这种新材料则由一种名叫“ditopic” 的分子短链结构组成。如果断了,只需在室温条件下将其断裂两端按住几分钟,即可自我修复。科迪亚及其同事写道:“修复后的皮筋能够承受很大拉力,在外力释放后即可恢复原型。”东京大学的贾斯汀#8226;麦纳和Takuzo Aida在一篇文章中写道,这种材料“能承受多次断裂,不需要催化剂,而且易于制造。”“还有一大优点是,这种材料经过加热后能熔解,易于回收,所以,它又是一种环保材料。” /200803/28879。
  • 1. Immature woman will spend their parents#39; money;Mature woman will spend their own money or the man#39;s money。1.不成熟的女人会花父母的钱;成熟的女人会自己挣钱或花男人的钱。2. Immature woman chooses the dignity of life in frony of life, dignity and the burden;Mature woman would choose the burden。2.不成熟的女人在面对生命的尊严与生活的重担时,选择生命的尊严;成熟的女人会选择生活的重担。3. Immature woman chooses friendship from love when the conflict happens;Mature woman would choose marriage。3.不成熟的女人在友情和爱情发生冲突的时候会选择友情;成熟的女人会选择婚姻。4. Mature woman likes to talk self-centered;Mature woman talk all the time taking others#39; feelings into consideration。4.不成熟的女人说话总喜欢以自我为中心;成熟的女人说话的时候会顾全对方的感受。5. Immature woman will always check a man#39;s cellphone text messages only to gey herself angry。Mature woman would forbear their own curiosity to preserve the family#39;s integrity and spiritual calmness。5.不成熟的女人会时常看男人的手机短信,给自己惹火上身。成熟的女人会隐忍自己的好奇心保全家庭的完整和精神层面的平静。6. Immature woman only wants to gain from marriage;Mature woman learns to respect and understanding in marriage。6.不成熟的女人在婚姻里只懂得索取。成熟的女人在婚姻懂得尊重与理解。7. Immature woman abuses the husband#39;s mistress when he has an extramarital affair;Mature woman refelects on herself the moment she discovers her husband has an extramarital affair。7.不成熟的女人在怀疑丈夫有婚外恋的时候谩骂小三。成熟的女人在发现丈夫有婚外恋的首先自我反省。8. Immature woman tends toquarrel with her husband when he is impetuous。Mature woman will try everything she could to release his pressure。8.不成熟的女人面对丈夫浮躁的时候喜欢打破沙锅问到底。成熟的女人却会为丈夫端来一碰温度适宜的洗脚水帮丈夫减压。9. Immature woman enjoy a long-term Cold War with her husband。Mature women will show a maternal tenderness to her husband。9.不成熟的女人喜欢和丈夫长期冷战。成熟的女人会展现母性的温柔给丈夫一份舒心。10. Immature woman will resolutely defend her husband。Mature women will give a man some space and he can be a degree of relaxation。10.不成熟的女人会对丈夫严防死守。成熟的女人会对给男人一些空间又能做到张弛有度。 /201310/262661。
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